There are no modded bioses for the R40 to support 400fsb dothans, unfortunately. I did some extensive research when I had mine and came up empty handed.
I did however conclude that the system could handle the chips and the only thing in its way was the bios limitation.
I bet if you went on one of the bios modding sites and bugged someone enough, or made it yourself (probably easier, trust me) , you would have a dothan in your R40 stable.
I also ran mine with a gig and a half of ram, it should be able to support a full 2 gigs. Head over to
www.tweakhound.com and see his tweaking guides for getting the most out of what you already have, I highly recommend it.
As for your R60, I haven't looked into it any time recently, but I believe the 14" R60, 14" and 15" T60 and T61's use the same board. 15" R60's use a different board, and I made the mistake of buying the wrong one. I still have it around, but I'm not sure if it works or not. Make sure you get the right one if you plan on replacing it.